Top 10 Valentine’s Do’s and Don’ts

I am delighted to welcome back as a guest Julie Spira who has previously shown us her musical credentials with her Top 10 Halloween Songs.

This time, dating expert Julie has used her specialist skills to compile this list of top tips to help you to plan your Valentine’s Day celebrations.  You can find out more about Julie by following her on Twitter @juliespira and by visiting Cyber Dating Expert.

Valentine’s is slowly approaching and red candy hearts are appearing on TV and in the grocery stores. Here are my Top 10 tips to prepare for the Super Bowl of Love, Valentine’s Day.

1. Do discuss Valentine’s Day with the person you are dating. If one of you loves the holiday and the other can’t bear it, come up with a compromise. Valentine’s is on a Monday this year. Pick a different night for a romantic dinner and make it a special date night on one of the days leading up to the 14th.

2. Do make a dinner reservation for February 14th. Even if you don’t have a date in mind, go ahead and reserve a table. You can always cancel the reservation if you find yourself dateless on the days leading up to Valentine’s.

3. Don’t wait until the week before to ask her to spend the Valentine’s with you. If you are dating someone special and you know for sure you’d like her to be your Valentine, ask her out at least two weeks in advance.

4. Don’t ask her out for Valentine’s Day in an email or a text message. This is the time for you to either pick up the phone and call or better yet, ask her in person if your date is going well.

5. Don’t go overboard with flowers. It’s the thought that counts. Stop by your local grocery story and pick up one long stemmed rose. It has the same impact as the full dozen and is 1/12th the price.

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6. Do try in-room dining this year. Light some candles, cook up a simple meal in the kitchen together and look forward to a steamy dessert.

7. Don’t make gift giving too much pressure. You may still be paying your credit card bill from the holidays. A card, a hug, and some lingerie and massage oils will make a memorable evening.

8. Do accept invitations for Valentine’s dances and parties the weekend before February 14th. You won’t feel alone with so many other singles in a fun and flirty setting. Wear red for the occasion and say yes if someone asks you to be his or her Valentine.

9. Don’t be blue if you can’t be with your sweetheart on Valentine’s Day. Schedule a SKYPE date, wear red, and flirt the night away with your long distance love.

10. Do wake up and wish your loved one a Happy Valentine’s Day in a voicemail, email, or text message to let them know that you’re looking forward to spending the evening together.

Do you look forward to or dread Valentine’s Day? We’d like to hear your comments. For more Valentine’s dating advice, visit

Many thanks to Julie for an informative and entertaining Top 10 which will, I hope add to the enjoyment of your Valentine’s Day. Please do share any tips you may have from your own good (or bad!) experiences!

Julie Spira is a leading expert in online dating. She creates irresistible online dating profiles for singles on the dating scene and is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Follow her on Twitter @JulieSpira. Like her at

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  • Anonymous

    Thank you for sharing my Top 10 Valentine’s Tips with your readers. I look forward to seeing the comments. Happy Valentine’s everyone!

    • My pleasure Julie, I am sure Mrs Hastings will be delighted when I put in to practice all of your tips :-)

      • Anonymous

        It’s important to date your mate, so I’m hoping that both singles and couples can relate.

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