Would You Let Your Daughter Marry A Blogger?
I am an old fashioned sort of guy, late 50’s, only been blogging since last year and while not the oldest blogger in town I am certainly above the average age of the typical social media aficionado.
I have noticed over the last few years that I have different values to many in the generations that have followed mine. I instinctively do stuff like giving up my seat to an elderly person who may need it more than me and holding a door open for people. Simple actions but examples of things that seem to be dying out these days.
What does all this have to do with my daughter’s fictitious blogger betrothed? Well I feel that these values are still vitally important in life and in my online activities and I was thinking that they might help me in measuring any prospective son in law against my expectations. (Not that she would listen to me if I tried to give her any advice!)
So I thought I would share my thoughts on why I think these “old fashioned” values are still important, please do let me know what you think, maybe they will help you when that son or daughter comes home and announce that they have fallen in love with a blogger!
So what do I mean by integrity? A definition is “adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty” and that really sums up how we should approach the social media world.
I like a blog post with a bit of spice or edge to it as much as the next man (or woman) but the author needs to know where the boundaries, both ethical and moral, lie when considering their content. Bad language is fine if not excessive and used in context and care should be exercised with images with permission being sought for use and the more graphic end of the scale being avoided. Don’t make libellous or defamatory statements and don’t plagiarise other writers, be original and create your own unique style.
When it comes to selling on the blog show how ethical you are by full disclosure and checking that box which says “no adult content” in any of your ad spots.
I am a polite sort of person and I hope that shines through in all of my social media activities. I try to monitor who is sharing my content and I always try to make sure I thank someone who has shared my content with a direct “thanks” or maybe a Follow or a Retweet or share of something they have done.
I hope to receive the same level of courtesy in return and will soon stop promoting someone if I constantly share his or her stuff without reciprocation or acknowledgement however influential they may be. Do you think I am right to adopt this attitude? Do you think my expectations are too high?
Sense of Fun
What is life without a bit of fun! I try not to take life or myself too seriously and I like to associate with people who have the same attitude. I like to have a laugh and make sure that my blog and my Tweets reflect that. So while I do like to see some serious stuff it’s vital to have good dose of silliness and smiles in all that we do.
Some might not see this as a value but even if you can’t put that label on it I still think that it’s a great trait to carry with you through your life. To my mind we have a choice when approaching our social media activities, relationships, problems or whatever life throws at you.
You can be the “glass half empty” person who looks on the dark side of everything, assumes the worst will happen and sucks the energy out of all around them. Or you can be like me and look at the glass as half full, look forward and not back and take whatever positives you can from a problematic situation.
Blogging takes commitment, interacting and engaging on your various social media platforms takes commitment whether it be commenting on other peoples blog posts or Tweeting consistently. I really notice this when I am researching my Top Twitter lists where a lack of regular and recent activity puts me off featuring people. Keep that commitment up as it soon shows when it’s not there.
Social media is a powerful vehicle for showing compassion and support for others and while not all of us want to shout from the rooftops about what we do a look at someone’s activity can say a lot about where their heart lies.
Are all the Tweets self-serving or do you see some positive quotes and charitable links? Are all the blog posts cynical and negative or do you sometimes see a glimmer of humanity? There are of course no rights and wrongs here but I do feel we should try to use social media as a force for good when we can.
Dare to fail!
What do I mean by this? Well lets just say that some of my blog posts have been more successful than others and looking back I wonder now what might have possessed me to write such a rubbish article or think that an idea might work.
But I have learnt something from everything I have done on the blog and even the disasters have led me to change and improve, some of the dafter ideas have actually turned out to be successful. If I always played safe these ideas might not have seen the light of day so that lessons might not have been learned and improvements not made.
If you constantly fear failing you will never succeed!
So what do you think? Am I behind the times or are these values still important? Please do let me know.
This article was published as a guest post by Tony on the excellent Cats Eye Writer Blog and has been reproduced here by the kind permission of Judy Dunn. You can view the original article and the interesting comments it provoked Here.
Bride and Groom – Image: FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Thank you – woodleywonderworks Flickr
Hand Kind – Idea go / FreeDigitalPhotos.net